If you’ve read my posts or you already know me you know that I say these things constantly when people ask me questions. I never dreamed of growing up and being an adult. I don’t think I handle change very well. You know how people say, “All girls dream of their fairy tale wedding.” That’s not true. I am not all girls. And if I did not dream of a wedding than I am sure there are other girls out there like me.

With saying that, I never dreamed of telling you, I’m engaged. Actually, I didn’t plan on having a boyfriend until I was 27. (I’m 23 right now) I felt like there were dreams and aspirations God had placed on my heart and I just didn’t see sharing them with anyone. So you can see when Jared came into my life I was quite stand offish. (This will be a blog post in the future)

So since I’ve been writing a ton for Somewhere in the City Say Something Clever has lost a little bit of it’s identity. This may be stupid and it may be cheesy but I’m selfishly sharing how I came to be a ladyfriend (I hate the term girlfriend) and how planning a wedding goes for someone who has never really thought of being married. I say selfishly because I expect married folks to explain to me how this all works. photo (64)

I wrote this before I ever knew who Jared was. These weren’t meant for me to find until I was in my late 20s.

May 23, 2011: AMANDA DON’T EVER BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT GOD BEING IN THE CENTER OF IT. Repeat this as many times as you need to.

On the very next page I made a list I called stupid for so long. So sometime in May of 2011


(Scott Hornsby said something along the lines of I am a daughter to a father who has provision over my husband. Don’t just take what I can ask for but ask big. But I was once told it may be silly to make such requests of someone. But I’m here on these pages asking and asking big and you know what if one of these things isn’t obtainable, I understand, this is just a page tucked away in book on a shelf)

  • Like my music :Jared sings along with me : )
  • Play the harmonica, it doesn’t have to sound good :If it doesn’t have to sound good then he’s in
  • Grow a beard for me :Jared has a very manly beard
  • Hate Twilight and Country music :Check and Check
  • Bring a beautiful mother in law to me :She is ever so lovely
  • Love me more without make up :Jared hates make up on any girl
  • Read the Bible more than me :He loves the Lord and wants nothing more to know His word
  • Lead our home in a godly manner :We are yet to be married but with his track record so far…
  • Raise our children alongside of me :Same as above
  • Bring straight teeth into the relationship because I guarantee we won’t be able to afford braces for the children :He has never had braces and his teeth are perfect
  • Have a good work ethic :I’ve never seen someone work as hard as him in such a humble mannerDSC_0453

Now I know the list was semi silly but when Jared told me about his teeth I started to panic. How could my ridiculous list actually fit someone… God I guess..

I felt silly before sharing more on Jared and I since we were just dating but since I am wearing a ring I feel ok with being more open. I know this is mushy and if you don’t like it. That’s fine just stop following this blog because my upcoming posts are going to be about my ring and how I don’t know how to plan a wedding at all.

Thank you!


Yesterday Jared and I celebrated our one year dateaversary together! DSC_04641

It’s crazy to think back to last year around this time. I resisted and fought the idea of the title of girlfriend. I told Jared to leave me alone and stop this pursuit he had over me. I cried in closets to my mother telling her I didn’t want to be a girlfriend, now all of this sounds quite depressing but I assure you I had many realizations along the way.

I set aside the pride I took in being single and accepted the blessing God was trying to give to me through Jared. Once I realized Jared was a gift to me everything was so much better and I was able to grow and support Jared as his ladyfriend.

Jared has quite possibly become my favorite human within this past year. He is considerate of others, humble, has a servants heart, has a beard, hates Twighlight, loves his mom, sings loudly in the car with me, talks in funny voices because it’s one of my favorite things, listens to God before anyone else, and reads the Bible way more then I do.

Fun little explanation, I like making up words, a lot. Like I call lap tops lapradors, why I don’t know?  I like when letters of the alphabet hold sentimental meaning to them. So for all who wonder, I call Jared my Gentlefriend because I hate the term boyfriend. I felt like I was in high school and it just felt weird because he was more then a high school boyfriend. So gentlefriend meant more to me.

Ya for us!


I know I haven’t posted too much on my personal blog which was intended to be a food documentary.  I thought only myself and my mom would read this little guy. Because of my nook on the internet I was able to get plugged into writing for another local blog called, Somewhere in the City. If you follow me you already know this part. Ever since I started writing for Somewhere in the City I gave all my food reviews to them so I actually had no idea what to say here. I ran out of clever things to say. I also started working two jobs at one time and when you become a robot you lose sight of dreams.

I once heard that if you don’t know what your passions are, pay attention to what you talk about because what your passionate about you’ll talk about. Recently I’ve talked a lot of the church plant I’m a part of. It’s not because it’s new, it’s because of three words I thought of the other day. I mean I didn’t make them up, they’re words that already exist, I know this because when I type them a red line doesn’t show up underneath of them.

A couple of weeks ago our Pastor posed us with a couple of questions; what would The District Church be known for? If the church were to close their doors, would any one notice? On the opposite  page of my notes I wrote down three words. They were…photo (63)Some how they all ended up starting with the letter, ‘G’

This is how I view The District Church and these three things are also what I want to be known for. So it just happened to work out perfectly since I no longer go to church or attend a church, I am the church. I am a part of the make up of the DNA and culture The District Church.

Generous- They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share…

I rather enjoy sharing, it gives me more to talk about with people. If they get to experience what I am experience through a generous gift then by all means, our conversations should go on for days. This church gives to some who others would never consider giving to. Or they give to people who would never expect to receive anything from a church. If more churches would give to the unexpected individual I think it may change the course of the way they think of who Jesus really is.

Grateful– If you know me, you know I love the characteristic of humility. I think being grateful and being humble go hand and hand. I lack confidence often times because I lean too much into humility. We deserve nothing, absolutely nothing. And I tell myself if I receive anything I should be grateful but I need to also remember the word GRACE. Grace should remind me to be confident. I see the people in this church thankful for opportunities given to them and it is only through grace that we can meet together, listen to a life story, and operate out of the talents we’ve been equipped with for just a time as this.

Genuine– I feel like genuine people are who others flock to because of their sincerity and honesty. They do things out of pure generosity and for no personal gain. These genuine people are secure in their identity. They don’t waiver from group to group and their personality stays true to who Jesus created them to be. Again, I believe humble people are genuine people. They mean what they say, in 2 Thessalonians Paul said he wrote his greetings with his own hands to show his genuineness in every letter. I believe we have a very genuine God. It was brought to my attention a little while ago that while God was creating the universe he was speaking planets, animals, oceans, and agriculture into existence but forming us with His hands. That seems like genuine love to me.

Maybe this was a little too personal but to be quite honest, I didn’t make you read to the last paragraph, you did that on your own. I hope to constantly strive to live a life where I am continuously generous, grateful, and genuine. I hope I constantly talk to my beating heart and see where it weighs in on the areas of which my soul has placed importance on.

I haven’t wrote one of these in a while, mostly because I feel all a little to weird sharing with you sometimes. But I found a story I’m ok with sharing.

Since being in a relationship with Jared, I very rarely speak of anything other then seriousness between us. Only a handful of people get to know how sweet he actually is. Girls ask me all the time questions, at first I thought were weird. “Where did he take you?” “Did he buy you this?” “He wrote you a letter, what did it say?” At first I thought they were too personal of questions and it was weird they’d want to know. I later found out, that’s what girls talk about. I was the abnormal one in conversations. I don’t understand why you girls what to know so badly but here are the things you want to know.

I was told I’d never find a good guy growing up, I believed those voices. My ultimate goal from these posts is not to make you jealous or boast about my gentlefriend. My goal is for you to see that there are great guys out there. You deserve to be treated well. You are worth more then what you think you are. You are valuable and you should be taken care of like so. I just so happen to have a perfect example for you..photo (61)

I love reading words because for some reason when I read they hold more weight to them rather then just hearing them. Jared knows this so he writes me love letters. I have a wall in my room that says, “LOVE” and underneath are where I post his letters. So if you were to look at it literally the wall would read, “Love Letters” eh eh eh, clever huh?

In one of my most recent letters Jared wrote, I honestly never thought I’d meet you when I was growing up.” Which is strange to me too. I don’t know why I liked that part of the letter so much.

In the book of Peter Pan, it says that Mrs. Darling couldn’t see Peter anymore because she was married and full of sense. I didn’t want to be full of sense and if she was married she must have been a grown up. It’s weird because I believe we’ll always be growing up.

I’m now becoming ok with the idea of being full of sense. 😉


These voices are ever so lovely. I just can’t get enough of it. I wanted to be able to share with the rest of you! Their name is, Jude Moses. Make sure you check them out!


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